Less Sharp

Say the thing without making it worse.

Finch helps you keep the boundary, update, or disagreement intact while reducing unnecessary heat.

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Pattern

Rude usually means too much heat, not too much honesty.

  • Keep the actual answer.
  • Remove insults, sarcasm, and blame.
  • Use one clean sentence for the boundary.
  • Add a next step only if there is one.

Boundary

When you need to say no

Message:"can you do this for me?"

Friendly:"I wish I could help, but I cannot take that on right now."

Business:"I am not available to take this on right now."

Unfiltered:"No, I cannot take that on."

A message or email does not have to become an interruption. Paste, pick a flavor, copy.

Social

When someone is being difficult

Message:"you're impossible"

Friendly:"I do not think this is helping either of us. Let's pause and come back to it later."

Business:"This conversation is no longer productive. I am going to pause here."

Funny:"This conversation needs a timeout before it becomes a sport."

A message or email does not have to become an interruption. Paste, pick a flavor, copy.

Related Help Guide

Lower the heat before you hit send.